When you think of the word family it generally means a group of people that have links to one common member. Family in the Christian sense means anyone, because God is our father.
The funny thing about family is that we have this urge to seek solace and affection and we expect to be loved by these individuals because we have a common relative. Personally I think this is absolute crap. Blood is thicker than water? BULLSHIT!
My definition of family is, any individual that you feel a profound love for. Fuck it, even your dog can be your family!
I'm unfortunate in the sense that I grew up far away from any cousins my age, and Cohen, Cammy, Ryan and Cally I know what I'm about to say might hurt you'll but the fact is that it is the truth and I know that you'll would feel the same about certain things. I love you'll very much but unfortunately I have not spent that much time with you'll due to the fact that I'm in Jozi and honestly I envy your relationship with each other.
With my family I am the outsider, while most excel at academics I excel at other things, and I never get the recognition I deserve. From anyone. My family is full of really intelligent people, the type of people who have multiple degrees, sometimes in totally different fields. They are the type of people that have made it big. That have whack loads of money. Most of my relatives that are still in school are fucking geniuses and there's me, the runt of the litter.
I'm not here to have a pitty party, but I felt like you needed some idea of what it is. The thing is that I'm expected to exceed their achievements, I'm right now showing no potential of doing it. This scares them, and I constantly get lectures about my future. Its sad really that this "blood" of mine can't accept me for who I am, what I have achieved and the person I really am.
I was explaining to one of my kids in my Sunday school class that he was my brother and he couldn't fathom the fact that I believed strongly in this. OK yeah he was only 6 years old, but still people find it weird that I can call what seems to be a random selection of people my family, my brothers and sisters. The fact is that my friends know me better than my own family, they know how I function they actually give a shit. They actually care with no other motivation except because they love me!
I sometimes feel that with family they feel its their duty to care, to love. This is bullshit. There should be no other motivation but "its because I love you" and when asked why not because your family or I'm your aunty, uncle, cousin or whatever. Fuck that! Ill tell you now, my brother will probably be the only family standing up with me at the altar on my wedding day. Why, because at one stage of his life he said to me "Kyle I hate you" and when I asked why he replied "because you a asshole to me" BOOM! You might see this as disrespect of the highest note, or you might be ripped to shreds because he is your brother, no, I'm not his brother because I'm related to him I'm his brother because he is my best friend and that day I was neither. For that I love him.
So yeah that bullshit that you can't choose your family is bullshit, because I chose mine and yeah some of my blood is considered family but as far as I'm concerned if you have a relative in common with me, sweet we might as well like the same colours .
